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For the ladies, before thinking of how to treat men well, first & foremost, you must treat yourselves well.
HOW TO TREAT A MAN WITH HONOUR…
There are three basic areas a man wants a woman to take care of when they’re dating:
1) Recreational companionship.
The man has activities he enjoys e.g. sports, hobbies etc.
Though the woman may not like the same things, she should have an interest in what the man likes.
If she doesn’t show interest in him, he feels rejected & something inside of him begins to get discouraged & to die.
There are also some impulses/survival instincts that a man has that make him have particular interests that the woman should try to accommodate.
For example, the guy is glued to the newspaper or TV watching what? You got it! Politics, News & Finance…
This is because his instincts are honed to protect & secure the future of the family & these things can affect it.
Learn to compromise on recreational activities. While it might not be possible (or sane) to do everything together, you can agree on which activities to do together.
2) Physical attractiveness.
Men expect you to:
- Look good, both in public & private.
- Be physically fit.
- Watch your diet.
- Keep your hair clean.
- Keep your makeup, clothes, shoes beautiful, nice & pretty.
- Smell good.
Different men have different tastes so find out what he likes & try to live up to that.
Men are visual creatures & therefore physical attractiveness is VERY important to them & they get repulsed by bad looks.
3) Admiration.
You should understand & appreciate him more than anyone else does… (In a nutshell, be his biggest fan)
You should really truly admire him… (He can tell the difference between honest admiration & empty flattery)
You should be genuinely attracted to him & not be repulsed by him in anyway.
You should tell him good things about him & dwell on his strong points & positive achievements… (This helps him to maintain his self- esteem & confidence)
Express your admiration for him. Pay him compliments. Buy him gifts. Do nice things for him…
Respecting his decisions…
Don’t nag him or bother him with repeating the same thing over & over… (He heard you the first time)
If you have to ask him something the second time, do so with love & humbleness.
Handling conflicts…
Don’t tear him down, tell him whatever needs to be said in love.
Give him time to change. It’s God who’ll work on him, not your nagging.
Avoid repulsive & coarse language when talking to him. (Or anyone else for that matter)
Be polite, humble & kind to him.
Don’t embarrass him infront of people.
There are things that you can discuss in public & there are things that you can only discuss in private.
How far is too far…
Turn down his sexual advances before marriage.
He will respect you if he doesn’t marry you.
Say no for God’s glory & for your own respect.
Dealing with other men…
Avoid trying to make him feel jealous. Don’t try to show him how popular you are with the other men.
Make him know he’s special to you.
Let him know that he’s more special to you than all other men.
Blasts from the past…
Tell him about your past. Let it come from you rather than from a third party.
This builds trust & openness. Tell him things before marriage which you know have the potential of affecting your marriage.
Trust that he loves you enough to accept you & your past, however, first build a relationship of trust & openness before you drop weighty issues on him.
Revealing your past:
- Sets you free.
- Gives him power to choose to be with you or leave you.
- Gives you the opportunity to know if he truly loves you.
Categories: Societal Awareness
A computer virus called ‘Raila Odinga’ is bad news in Malawi’s main commercial city of Blantyre as it has caused huge damages. The virus according to experts is believed to be a complicated group of deadly computer worms, trojans, spywares & adwares operating together as a single entity.
Full story: http://www.nyasatimes.com/national/1367.html
Categories: Security
1) You accidentally enter your own password on the microwave.
2) You haven’t played solitaire with real cards in years.
3) You have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of 3.
4) You e-mail the person who works at the desk next to you.
5) Your reason for not staying in touch with friends & family is that they don’t have e-mail addresses.
6) You pull up in your own driveway & use your cellphone to see if anyone is home to help you carry in the groceries.
7) Every commercial on TV has a website at the bottom of the screen.
Leaving the house without your cellphone, which you didn’t have for the first 20 or 30 years of your life, is now a cause for panic & you turn around to go & get it.
10) You get up in the morning & go online before you get your coffee.
11) You start tilting your head sideways to smile. : )
12) You’re reading this & nodding & laughing.
13) Even worse, you know exactly to whom you’re going to forward this message.
14) You’re too busy to notice there was no #9 on this list.
15) You actually scrolled back up to check that there wasn’t a #9 on this list.
Categories: Humour
Blog Action Day focuses on a specific global issue and asks bloggers the world over to focus on that for one day. Last year 20,000 bloggers wrote with a laser focus about the environment. This year the conversation is focused on poverty.
Categories: Blogging
I came across this e-mail one day in my inbox & I thought it would be good to share with you readers. I beseech you to watch the movie too!



Interesting quote from the movie “Why did I get married?”
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or women) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.
But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had.
Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.



Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have. “Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it’s not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I’m crazy about her because she’s also understanding, intelligent, tender – so many things that my spouse is not”
Somewhere along the way, you’ll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.
Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you’re looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let’s say your wife is melancholic by nature.
You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: “I broke my arm yesterday, Hahahaha . . ..”
Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of talk show host.
But wait! That’s only 20% of what you don’t have.
Don’t throw away the 80% that you already have!
That’s not all. Add to your spouse’s 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you’ve accumulated as lovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don’t have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.
But I’m not just talking about marriage.
I’m talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.
Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he’s missing? “They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they’ve got personal videos!”
I guarantee you’ll be miserable for the entire trip! Don’t live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class — because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?
The main message:
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are you are first class!
Categories: Societal Awareness
Low Internet penetration in rural areas, software issues and computer illiteracy have been cited as some of the reasons that the Electoral Commission of Kenya (ECK) could not use laptops during the controversial general elections last year.
Full story: http://computerworld.co.ke/articles/2008/08/27/kenya-commission-failed-use-laptops-elections
Categories: Corporations
The first ever reported computer virus has struck the international space station and many are wondering how it got there since they don’t have direct internet access…
Categories: Security